Sunday, February 14, 2016

For my People.

Happy Bola'ntines day!
#selflove #kanyetaughtme 
(this is the last time I'll be using hashtag on this blog)


I hope everyone that celebrates this day is enjoying it to the fullest, as neglecting to do so because of a one-sided/narrow-minded approach  towards  this day 1) hinders your happiness 2) causes you to lose sight of the people that love you. Love you & yours fam. Love you & yours. 

Now that all that mushy stuff is out of the way, (as if Funmi, queen of mushy, won't be peddling more emotional sentiment as this  blog goes along), let's get to the main gist. 


For my People. 


This year, or to put it better, to mark the new year, one of the many mantras that I adopted is "It's bigger than me." This means, everything I do - from the big engagements to the small projects and tasks - make some kind of big impact, bigger than I would have simplemindedly thought at that given point in time. To be honest, this quote underpins every single action of mine, & it comes at a point after which I alloted a year of self-love (my year away), with aim to by his grace selflessly thereafter "give myself" to the world. On that note, I very much approach all of my projects, tasks, and even self-improvement engagements with this attitude of it not necessarily being for me, but for the benefit of others. For example, I have made it a point to be working out consistently as I am studying, as I do have personal projects that, when they come into full effect, I hope will be of full benefit to the world (read: my small communities).

This phrase also describes my personal goal at the moment of (re)building relationships with others. Seeing my personality and my love language, its a bit disconcerting to see the current state of my friendship box & how I'm failing at this personal goal. & a bit confusing at the same time. It is as if I spent the past year trying to work on myself so much so that I would be confident enough to cultivate the most healthy relationships - I am firm believer in having a sound sense of self that guards against one-sided/half ass/ shallow relationships. I lacked that in my high school and college years, and I did not want to wilfully enter into the next stage/step without gaining this...so thankfully, this Masters program was my saving grace, my Nutribullet, my sharp shooting shooter -- that allowed for a full restoration of confidence & so much more.....but my goodness. to see how much I am still not engaging, is weird. Maybe I forgot to consider the fact that people were going also grow up and be just as "busy" as me. Swear, half the time, maybe we are all sitting down (in our free times) and staring at our social networks waiting for each other to actually contact each other. Waiting for each other to make the first move. The negatives  of the widespread nature of contemporary social media, I guess. This would actually be an interesting research to conduct, but the way my feelings toward academia and research are set up at the moment, I'm the last person to even want to spearhead such a study.

Anyway, just know that everything I am doing here and beyond, is for my people.


You all know who you are. I hope I do too.





Funmi 

Thursday, February 11, 2016

Besos.

I've missed you so much!

Ah, I actually cannot believe I have been away for 39 days!
By golly.


Well, Now that I think about it, it was a purposeful exit.

Cos "Bit** I'm back. By Popular Demand"


To catch you up:

-I have a slight potty mouth now.
-I stopped believing in God for about a week or two. I've since returned to my foundational roots, Jesus.
- I went to PARIS!
- I am in love with the color pink.
- My british accent skills are second to none.
- My emotions are literally on roller coaster mode; jumping from excited, to depressed, to paranoid about my future.
- August 8 2020 (Saturday) heart eyes.  - insider.
- On Monday, I wanted to be Beyonce (performer/dancer), Tuesday a fashion designer/stylist, Wednesday morning a blogger/vlogger/writer & evening an academic/lawyer.  Just to show you how straight I am on knowing what I want to be in life.
- I turned 24 & it was one of the more happy birthday's that I've had in a while. Besos.  *Beyonce voice*

-Jhene Aiko has been on repeat *Sail Out mixtape* Whoo.

What else?

-I've been playing around with the phrase "anubi" - could be a blog title? a label  title? Hmmm.
-Kanye's confidence is contagious.
-Samantha Power is my current role model. That may change within the next day or month or year...hmm.
-Chicago's been on my mind lately. My heart is tugging to live there like crazy, so I have been strategically applying for jobs there....& if all else fails....you already know *wink*
 -I've been working out! & improving (well, trying to) my skin health!
-I no longer put culture on the pedestal that I used to put it on. Nigeria/Nigerian music specifically. So I am very much mentally prepared to return to America & become its b*tch temporarily. Take all of me, 'Murica. This destruction has been a long time coming. Finally!!

What to look forward to: Creative expression through dance, fashion, and visual media. Academic advancement. Consistent updating of the blog (of course) & a new more tailored to the public blog on the way!


Funmi.




Saturday, January 2, 2016

Peace.

Today was the second day of the new year, and it was amazing. I feel blessed. For so many reasons, in so many ways, and by so many people. This multi-faceted feeling parallels the title of today's blog in the sense that  not only is it referring to a special young girl in my life, but it also reflects my current state of emotions. I am grateful to finally be at peace, after what seemed to be one of the most turbulent periods of my life in so many different ways. But hey, gold has to be put through fire to become what it is, right?


It started off beautiful...by the way- today's blog is literally another one of those recaps of my day posts, with no specific topic of discussion, but I will incorporate some though provokers as the post goes on, so be on the look out.


So it started off with doing 150 squats with ease ( Grace only did 50) while listening to 'Bed Peace'. How did I end up doing a workout routine to such an "emotional" song, as it were? Well,  Peace, my young darling cousin, before I was about to commence workouts, said "I'm staying in bed all day". Then I said "Oh, you're at bed peace (pun intended), like the song....have you heard the song before?" & the rest was Jhene Aiko downhill.....literally, because even after I finished the squats, we had a mini - jam session to Jhene Aiko's other songs (Spotless Mind, was a particular favourite). So it seemed as if the day would continue on this "peace-y, Soulful" high, and so it did.......



....as watching Pocahontas later in the evening reinforced the mindset that I have had all my life, which I actually thought I recently adopted. Just like Pocahontas, I too have aspirations, a mindset, a  lifestyle that goes further and deeper than the traditional or the common. The easy is not our forte. Her easy was to get married to the guy she was betrothed to. Yet, she was more at peace, was herself when she explored. When she found new worlds, expanded her territories, fed her mind, exercised her god-given femininity and just all-around person. It may just so be the case, that Pocahontas character has subliminally underpinned my mindset, outlook on life, because literally everything about her actions in the film reflects my own personal life outlook. I actually even forgot how much of a big part of my childhood the film  was, and also how much value I placed on the female character herself. She has been my role model, all this time & I did not even realise it.


In sum,  I am blessed to have peace & pocahontas. 
Happy 2nd of January. 


Spotless Mind x Jhene Aiko 




Friday, January 1, 2016

The year of the Baby Girl.

Happy New Year! | 2016.

Thank you Lord, for the fact that I am able to be counted among the living. As I always say, I love the new year, as it gives me an excuse to make changes. Yet, something that was profoundly and distinctively different about this crossover experience, was that there was literally nothing that I felt I needed to dramatically change about myself. Usually, I approach/enter into every crossover with the mindset of "new year, new me", but this year, I can finally say that one of the most important things that I normally pray and hope to improve in every single start of the year ( confidence) - I have a fairly good grasp of it... good enough to the point of not obsessing over it at the point of this crossover. In fact, I vividly remember that around 7:30 pm GMT, as my uncle was driving me over to London, I was so excited to crossover into the new year. These are all feelings that I normally do not have, but I am grateful to Him for having felt the way I felt. God is good - & I cannot help but attribute my feelings to the  all too important year out that I took. I thank God for discipline, for his mercy, and for his direction.


I look forward to the developments of this year, and as the first day of this year ends, I will allow you all, readers, a sneak peek into my thoughts concerning this year. Here's my approach, as it aligns with God's execution:


If you are familiar with the all too common quote - "Work Hard, Play Hard", then you understand what it means as well. I spent the past year working hard. Working hard to counter all of the negative things that had been a part of my life for so long - unnecessary and disgusting low self-esteem, low self-worth - all that which affected my academics, relationships, and so much more. All glory be to God, that mountain in my life has been demolished, destroyed, overcome, defeated, subdued. So now it is time to "play". This is where my "the year of the baby girl" mindset comes from. I deserve to "baby girl" it to the fullest this year. Wear makeup a little more. Doll up a bit more. Flirt a bit more. Smile and charm it up a bit more. Dance a bit more. Relax a lot more - not in every aspect of my life of course, but rather where it matters most.


2016.
Prioritize.
Pray.
Peace.
Positivity.
Happiness.
Appreciation.
Praise.
Plan.
Pray.
Play.

...Everything that I (mistakenly) told myself that I couldn't have.

Be kind to yourself.


Psalm 119:57-64




BolaxOke.



Sunday, December 27, 2015

Thank You (an open letter).

Funmi,


Thank you for your patience with me.

Lord,

Thank you for the discipline, the determination, the dependency that you had me establish with you.


Funmi,
Thank you for not giving up on me even when you wanted to, countless times.

Lord,

Thank you for allowing me to realise my corner, my support system. Especially that even when they may not understand or always necessarily agree or show interest in my actions, that they still love me.
That I am capable of being loved.


Funmi,
Thank you for first and foremost loving yourself.


Lord,

Thank you for an amazing year. I wanted my eyes to be open. To be aware. To learn. To learn. To learn. God. I got all that and more. I am grateful.

So grateful.


It is only by the grace of God.



Bolaxbijou

Sunday, December 13, 2015

Liebe in Bamberg

Love in Bamberg.


It is by the grace of  God.....is the name "tagline" or hashtag that I have been pondering over since the thought came to me while showering. Swear, that I get my best thoughts in the shower. Just swear.

All that I have gone through this year  has literally been by the grace of God.

The good and the bad.


It is by the grace of God that 2015 began with Funmi finding her way to church just before the New Year, even though the devil almost tried to block her blessing through the bus taking her in the wrong direction.

It is only by the grace of God that I turned 23 & was able to share it in the most loving and caring environment & in such an amazing city that has a special place in my heart - London.

It is only by the grace of God that I successfully worked and made money to purchase a return ticket home for the summer.


It is only by the grace of God that I volunteered with the British Red Cross' refugee services at a very crucial period in Europe, with it having to manage the influx in migrating persons.


It is only by the grace of God that I submitted my Masters dissertation.


It is only by the grace of God that I learned the art of femininity and got more into being a woman.

It is only by the grace of God that through dealing with a broken heart, I learned the meaning of true love and cherish those that I express it to who also reciprocate such feelings.


It is only by the grace of God that I am alive today and have hope for my tomorrow.

When all is said and done, alas...it is truly only [By the Grace of God].

#BTGOG

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I saw a few things differently today.

I saw love differently:
-"sometimes our heart can lead us astray, it even talks about that in the Bible" -Elizabeth
- Friendship that goes above and beyond.
-disconnecting and reconnecting to realise the importance of loving myself.
-the chocolate shavings in my "hot chocolate"


I saw Bamberg differently:
On the way to church today, we passed by the former American military barracks:  Warner Army Barracks. It recently closed down (2014), and the territory turned over to the German government. Still I find it quite interesting that as I was walking by, I felt like my mindset towards this city was all of a sudden corrupted, infiltrated by the very fact  that America had once been here. Not sure if it was a good or bad feeling ( well since I used the term "corrupted" to describe my feelings, I guess one can say 'bad').

I am slowly starting to see my life differently:
That is all, amen!?!




What things did you see differently today & what are your #BTGOG's ?


I'd love to hear from you all.



Firstladyfunmi
OluFun
bolaxbijou

Saturday, December 5, 2015

Formular Freitags: Hagebutten Oel.

Formula Fridays: Rosehip Oil.

 Welcome to the newest instalment of this blog, Formula Fridays, where I share beauty, wellness, image, and health products that I am using or have used and have proven to be quite beneficial to my health/beauty/wellness routine. Those that know me know that I am a development fanatic, meaning that I love seeking out ways to improve myself, my appearance, and so on so forth. It was thus only a matter of time that this segment of my blog manifested itself.

[In regards to the frequency of these posts, I would like to start off with every other Friday to avoid my blog being too product focused, as it is still in its inchoate stages]

Also, "Formula Friday" is not really my favourite phrase to use for this segment, so if anyone has suggestions, I am all ears.


The First Formula Friday goes to the all-amazing, yet not really talked about Rosehip oil.





Whenever I am excited about something, I dread having to write about it, simply because I know not from where to begin, as my thoughts are literally going a thousand miles per hour trying to figure out the best way to encapsulate in sentences how amazing the product is. Alas, these are my exact sentiments towards rosehip oil, and unfortunately there are no words to describe how much of a godsend this product was to me at the time that I found out about it.


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So a little background information about how I got connected with it (feel free to skip this if you're not a story person):

It was around Spring 2015. I was still in Birmingham, UK finishing up the second term (semester) of my Masters programme, while at the same time STILL  trying to get an amazing skincare routine for  myself. This was after so much investment in a variety of products. Since I am open to trial-error (at the expense of my bank account), I spent much time researching and going to the two main (huge) beauty supply shops in Birmingham City Centre to get my hands on new products. Boots saw my face a few times as well. Anyway, all in all, despite my skin getting clearer and more cute by the Spring of 2015 (my skin care overhaul had begun in the Fall/winter 2014 - even to the point of me "giving up" wearing makeup for a while because I was more focused on achieving the best skin possible), to my dismay I still could not pinpoint that one product within my routine that was getting my skin to be the best it could possibly be, and the products within my routine were just average in comparison to my established goals for my skin maintenance.

 Essentially my goals were to

1. fade my spots 
2. prevent acne 
3. reduce oiliness

I even tried Clarins "toner" - a 15-20 quid item that turned out to be something close to just water. I became convinced that I was just buying the name.

I was so desperate that I even returned to my staple from a while back, the REN clay cleanser....for some reason, it did not make a difference to my skin this time around.

In addition, my skin is most off-balance when it is that time of the month for me, so imagine being in such a predicament & still not having a skin care routine that could stand against and possibly allay the dire effects of my period. Bad combo, bro. Bad combo.

So after all this 'Google and searching' yet still finding myself at a  lacklustre routine, I very much did what any persistent person would do.... research even more. This is one of my more stronger traits. I do not give up when I have a clear goal in mind.

I have since forgotten when and how I stumbled upon this product during my research, but I did... Ah, it is all slowly coming back to me :)! It was around Easter that I found out about rosehip, because I still remember telling my aunt in Luton that I wanted to check the Boots drugstore to see if they had the product in stock. They did not, as this product is only sold at Holland & Barrett in the UK (as far as I am aware). Anyway, so I finally got my hands on it later the next week, and I have not been able to keep my hands off of it ever since.

My face literally has never been the same since I have been using the oil. The benefits for me were instantly apparent. I mean, from the next day on, there  was just something different about my appearance. It glowed, it looked younger, it caught a few eyes. My selfie game literally increased a notch. Let me just end my rant here before I become too incoherent from excitement.

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I will now lay out the properties & the benefits: 


Properties of rosehip seed: 

Antioxidants - Omega 3, 6, 9. Fatty acids that rehydrate the skin. Scientifically proven to reduce stretch marks and scars*

Vitamin Rich - Vitamin C, Vitamin A

Linoleic acid - omega 6 fatty acid  that prevents acne, allows for acne relief, reverses UV-induced hyperpigmentation.


Benefits:
Of course, from my "rant" above, you can get a grasp of how much this product singlehandedly improved my appearance. I will still go ahead & provide a succint list of what exactly one will essentially gain from consistent use of this oil, based on the above mentioned properties:

acne prevention > The idea that an oil has this benefit may seem counterintuitive, since most persons with acne-prone skin have oily skin in the first place. The oil is considered a "dry" oil that easily absorbs onto your skin and leaves no oily residue. So this classification, coupled with it having 'linoleic acid' as a component makes for this oil's ability to help with acne despite its consistency. On that note, I having combination/oily skin tend to still find the oil to be a bit oily for me, in the sense that it does leave a residue if I am not careful. But I have found a remedy. More on this below (so combo/oily skin ladies, make sure you stay tuned till the end). Anyway, having since used this product, I literally have experienced little to no breakouts. It is only when I get too oil happy with my food consumption and during my periods that my skin tends to have a visitor or two...but even then, it is extremely manageable & I have my bae, rosehip to thank for this.

evens out skin tone > I have oily/acne prone skin (or combination skin, to be more specific). As a young lady that once had bad acne, I have scarring from those pimples that I decided to pop..in fact, "decided to pop" gives no justice as a description to the torture I put my face through when a pimple surfaced. Those were crazy times, but thank God for levels, amen? As a result, I have had to deal with scarring on both sides of my cheeks and on my forehead. I effectively cleared my forehead before using this product, using Ambi Even and Clear products - but one has to be careful with their products, as you might be lightening your whole skin in the process of trying to lighten a few spots. Do not ruin your melanin, ladies (speaking specifically to my darker skinned women). So I wanted to use a more natural product, especially in the face of the persistent scarring on my cheeks. Since having used this product, one has to really come very close to my face to see my scars, and it is only improving by the day! These scars were pretty dark, so the fact that I am able to notice its significant  reduction is progress in real time. 

fine lines and wrinkles no more! > I'm at the age where I do not necessarily have to worry about wrinkles just yet, but I am mindful of starting to put things in place to ward them off for as long as possible (gosh, I sound like I am in my 40's...I'm only 23, but my mind thinks otherwise). Anyway, this oil helps with really improving the elasticity and firmness of your skin. So even if you are blessed to not have to worry about acne/ uneven skin yet you want to preserve, maintain, and/or attain a youthful look - please look into this product. 

This product is very much a "miracle" oil as it has so many great benefits confined into a serum/bottle:
anti-aging + dark spot corrector + even skin serum + glowing skin enactor

+ bonus!

I have seen a difference in the thickness of my eyebrows and have longer eyelashes since having used this product. This is my own observation though, and may very well be a result of other products combined. But if anyone else sees growth in these two areas,  let me know! 


With all this said, I cannot impress enough the importance of using this in combination with other products that you feel gets your skin as cleansed, purified, and as healthy as possible. So I also attribute the current positive state of my skin to having a good consistent routine with the use of amazing products that work for me. 

but First Lady Funmi, how do I get my hands on this product? 

Where to Buy: 

I use Trilogy, but there are a host of other brands that produce and supply the oil as well! There are suppliers that sell via Amazon, Ebay, etc. even if you cannot seem to find one in-store near where you live. 
When I lived in England, Holland and Barrett was my go-to store. When I went home to the U.S.A over the summer, I found that the Vitamin Shoppe sold the same product at a much more affordable price *devastation emoji*. In Germany, it is called Hagenbuetten oel & it is just as affordable as the ones for sale in stores in USA. 



I will be following this up with a skincare routine post over the holidays. The simple reason that I am unable to do so now is that I unfortunately do not have access to about three products that are staples in my routine, given my current location. Over the Christmas period, I will finally have access to them, and thus cannot wait to share with you all a full list of products that work for me.  



For my combo/oily skin ladies: As I said before, I hope you were able to stay tuned to this point, as I have a tip that will effectively help with lessening the oiliness of your skin after using this product. Keep in mind as well that the oiliness will not inform acne! It just has the likelihood of sitting on your skin and not necessarily absorbing properly. So here is my technique: After exfoliating and cleansing my skin, I make sure to use a toner that will really dry out my face. Very much dry to the point of ashiness, even. This dryness will really allow for the rosehip to act as the moisturiser that it wants to act as, reducing the oiliness that could come as a side effect. If all else fails, feel free to blot your face a bit after a good 7-8 minutes of having applied the oil onto your skin. 



OluFun
Firstladyfunmi
bolaxbijou 


*keep in mind that the antioxidant content of the oil depends on the amount of rosehip that a rosehip oil manufacturer decides to put in their oil. So make sure you read the ingredients. The rosehip oil I use has about 80% antioxidants and the more fatty acids the better! Terms such as "cold-pressed", "organic", and "certified" will also help in identifying its genuineness.