The Best of Lagos: Food Edition

 This year for my birthday, I treated myself to an extended stay in Lagos, past the typical departure period of the average 'IJGB' that spends time in Nigeria's capital for the holidays (appaz, if you're not from Lagos you can't call yourself an IJGB, but for all intents and purposes, here we are). Anyway, I stayed in Lagos, Nigeria till around February 8th , essentially meaning that I spent all of January and first week of February in one of my favorite cities, and got to slowly try many great food spots along the way (thanks to the exchange rate that was very much in my favor up until a few days before my departure, my pockets did not feel it as much even as the price points of the restaurants visited have risen). 

I really enjoy slow travel and take every opportunity to do so when I can. 

Doing so for Lagos via my extended stay was a no-brainer (read: there was actually alot of internal back and forth regarding this decision, but I'm glad I decided to stay in the end - typing this as 3-4 inches of snow has fallen in Chicago, IL).

 How was my experience? Words truly cannot express how much I enjoyed myself. Waking up most mornings to run with my friend Veno and her dog at Eko Atlantic Boardwalk, having slow mornings (due to the time difference, I worked in the evenings), the weather, the interesting environment, and of course, the food. 

                                                          Which is why we are here. 

I wanted to take time to share the restaurants, eateries, food delivery orders that I tried while in Lagos that deserve mention due to the quality - especially those where the meal and/or dining experience matched the price point (or even at times where I felt as if I underpaid). This discussion is worth having because in Lagos, there are equally as much terrible low quality, low experience restaurants as there is high quality, high experience. A few conversations and reading online reviews would allow you sift accordingly, which is what I did. Here are the top food experiences I had while in Lagos, in no particular order and not limited to a specific dining type: 

Stories Lagos (Lekki) 

Their drinks are amazing. Probably one of the best drinks I had in Lagos. I had to message my friend that recommended the spot to me that I was having a great time, because literally that's how I felt in the moment. I had wings and fries, and that was also good but the kicker, literally, was their very tasty slow burn drink, the Zombie.

Grey Matter Social Space (Victoria Island)

I kid you not when I say that I planned a second visit simply to get the same meal I ordered the first time I visited, because it was that good. A big kudos to the chef. Grey Matter offers a (what I would consider) Michelin rated food menu at a quarter of the price. The meal I had to circle back for was the Suya Prawns and battered fries (p.s. don't get the plantain fritters - it is not as edible as the creatives that came up with the dish would think). The jumbo prawns came in a very healthy serving size - tbh they were quite generous with the size of the prawns, I felt like I underpaid. & Their drinks? having a standard tasting pina colada (or two) was not a bad way to top off my experience. 

Slow

Anyone that knows me knows that this is my go-to spot. My baby. I have an affinity for Slow because if you're looking for a standard meal, at standard price, without the frills and thrills (annoying service, crowd, etc), SLow is your spot. Plus they have a great menu, tempting you to get all parts of a course lunch or dinner. I did this with a friend, and it was the best money I've ever spent on a three-course dinner. Try the Cocoslow (it's even nonalcoholic!), you will thank me later. 

Ofe Uto 

Given my diet, I primarily stayed away from swallows/heavy foods this Christmas/my extended stay, but since I heard so much about Ofe Uto, I had to try it. I am a novice to the eastern soups/dishes so I was a bit lost with the menu, but thanks to Google, I ended up with the Ofe Owerri and eba. I told myself I'll just have a few bites once my food arrived but ended up almost finishing the dish. It was that good. I had to force myself to take the rest home to avoid overfeeding. pro tip: order to-go, because the dining experience was not that great. 

Bature Brewery

Great spot for after work drinks and a great vibe. Their grilled fish is lovely. Not too spicy. I don't have much to say about their drinks though, but dining experience is great if you are the outdoor lounge and vibe type. 

Salmas

Their hummus is mad. Also a great outdoor lounge and vibe dining experience, as they are located by a body of water. Good luck getting a seating by the water during peak hours, though, as they are always reserved. 

Their Salma Colada is great. 

Indomie Cafe

One of my favorite fast-food spots in Lagos. I love their variety of Indo-Mie. I put my friend on to it, and she really enjoyed her meal and was happy for the recommendation. 

Definitely try the Prawn-Mie. 

Can I stop here and say that the amount of seafood options readily available for consumption in Lagos (goes without saying) is every pescatarian's dream 

Gourmet Twist 

Their banana bread lured me in, but their jollof rice and turkey meal pack kept me a loyal patron. Another "fast food?" spot (I put the question there because there are a lot of restaurants that kind of fall in between - meaning they are not low quality enough to be considered fast food but are also not on the fine dining level. I actually love these kinds of restaurants in Lagos - I believe they are called pick and go canteens (Black Bell, Foodies, My Food by Hilda), where they offer an assortment of Nigerian dishes at market price. Gourmet Twist is great addition to these (although I think their menu is not as expansive). Their meal packs are time friendly, affordable, and delicious. 

Papa's Grill

small chops heaven. I need the puff-puff recipe. 

500 Chow

I ordered from here 3 times a week for their akara and pap. They made the best in the city, and that's from me trying two to three other vendors. 

I love akara and pap, so thank you, 500 Chow. 

Fresh County

I primarily patronize them for their juices. They had great juices. 

Brisk Lagos

Enjoyable dining experience. I have them on my list primarily for their bread and butter. 

Altogether, the Lagos food scene is quite the experience. It always gives not here for a long time, but a good time, so hopefully by the time you decide to try a few options from the list, the spot is still thriving and hasn't decreased in value, cut their quality, or is not altogether shut down. 

Funmi Oke

A Lesson In Love

written on 12/23

This blog will be short and sweet because it’s the holidays and I felt discussing the movie “Christmas in Lagos” and the takeaway from it would be a great way to wrap my blogging up for the year in a nice and neat bow (all pun intended).

Christmas in Lagos, while a bit choppy and holey was a fun, feel-good film that I liken very much to those cheesy American Hallmark Christmas movies. The key takeaway that I really loved and took note of was how the protagonist, despite her strong interest in her best friend, ended up by herself on New Years day -  her saying "happy new year fiyinfoluwa" was the explicit evidence of such. This conclusion is quite atypical to the standard rom-com narratives we are used to: best friend boy meets best friend girl, best friend boy eventually realizes it was best friend girl all along and they live happily ever after. Quite the contrary, in this film and despite the protagonist’s efforts, best friend boy sticks with his love interest, and they end up happily ever after. The writers definitely ensured to emphasize as a side note that platonic friendships between opposite sexes do exist, and although there may be a thin line between platonic and romantic, sometimes that demarcation is striking, as was the case in this film. 

Now going back to the key takeaway, of it being ok to be by yourself. I'm always a fan of films that don't force a love interest on the protagonist (the last film I remember watching whereby this was the case is Frozen). They didn't have her meet a new potential lover on New Year's Eve nor did they have her rekindle anything with anyone. I even took note that while she had all her family and friends around her, she didnt have a best friend side kick wishing her a happy new year, based on "we're all we’ve got" (as tends to be the case when both friends are single) None of these scenarios were the case for the protagonist, and the film emphasized that this was OK. We don't discuss much about how to treat not being partnered in adult female spaces. Sometimes even the forcing can put women in less-than-optimal situations, sometimes wholly unfavorable to them. 

The protagonist's quiet but resolute "Happy New Year" to herself is a beautiful moment of self-love and acceptance. It reflects a truth that often gets overshadowed in romantic narratives: our value is not determined by our relationship status. Happiness can come from within, from the connections we have with family and friends, and from the journeys we undertake on our own.

This portrayal of self-sufficiency and contentment in solitude is a powerful message. In a society that often glorifies romantic relationships as the pinnacle of personal fulfillment, “Christmas in Lagos” reminds us that being single is not a failure or a void that needs to be filled. It is simply another state of being, one that can be just as meaningful and fulfilling as being partnered.

As we wrap up the year and look toward new beginnings, let this film’s message inspire us to embrace where we are in life. Whether partnered or single, surrounded by loved ones or spending time alone, it’s important to recognize that joy and fulfillment are not exclusive to one particular path. Love, in its many forms, starts with how we care for and cherish ourselves.

So here’s to a new year of learning, growing, and loving ourselves as we are. And who knows—maybe “Christmas in Lagos” will be the unexpected holiday tradition we all didn’t know we needed.

Happy Holidays and Happy New Year!

Funmi Oke 

10 Guidelines for 2025

 1. Invest in yourself 

2. Invest in the people that invest in you

3. Learn to be comfortable in your own space and alone 

4. Level your head. don't see yourself so highly that you fail to self-correct. Balance confidence with reason. 

5. Leave a good first (and lasting) impression

6. Everything you need is right in front of you. Be present

7. It is OK to say 'no'. Be comfortable with your unconventional preferences

8. Start goals incrementally

9. Stop relying on your feelings and emotions. Routines help with getting things done, even when you don't feel like it

10. Be kind to yourself

Seriously praying for a blessed year ahead. 

2025, my year of restoration, leaning in, and creating space. 

Matthew 6:26-34

The Digital Traveler: How Technology Transforms and Challenges Solo Travel

In the age of smartphones and digital connectivity, solo travel has undergone a remarkable transformation. Technology has become the ultimate travel companion, making exploration easier, more convenient, and increasingly accessible to travelers around the world. I am currently in Cape Town, South Africa, and so far, I have been able to explore 3 beaches, find 3-4 "off the beaten path" restaurants, and live "in the mountains", thanks to technology. 

Technology: A Pocket-friendly Digital Travel Assistant

Given that I started solo travel in the Tenties, I have no recollection of how solo travel was without our smartphone (or any other smart device).  Were people even comfortable enough to travel by themselves? The only image that pops up in my head when I think of travel prior to the "Digital Age" is groups of people who would land in a foreign city clutching a physical map, struggling to communicate, and potentially feeling overwhelmed.

 Today, technology has completely revolutionized the solo travel experience. With a few taps on my smartphone, in most places I travel to, I can:

- Order a ride instantly through Uber or Bolt, eliminating the anxiety of navigating unfamiliar public transportation

- Have meals delivered directly to my hotel room through apps like Uber Eats or local food delivery services

- Navigate complex city streets with precise GPS mapping, removing the fear of getting lost

- Discover hidden gems and top-rated restaurants through crowd-sourced review platforms like TikTok or Google Reviews

The convenience is unprecedented. Translation apps break down language barriers, booking platforms simplify accommodations, and digital maps provide real-time navigation that was unimaginable just a decade ago.

The Hidden Cost of Convenience: Lost Human Connections

However, this technological ease comes with a subtle but significant drawback. As we increasingly rely on digital solutions, we're losing something precious - genuine human interactions that once defined travel experiences.

If I were to further my aforementioned imagination of people travelling prior to technology, it would probably consist of people: 

- Asking locals for directions, sparking unexpected conversations

- Seeking restaurant recommendations from hotel staff or street vendors

- Discovering off-the-beaten-path locations through spontaneous interactions

Now, we're more likely to consult an app than engage with local residents. This digital dependence means missing out on the rich, unpredictable moments that make travel truly transformative.

The Algorithmic Tourist Trap

Moreover, technology tends to funnel travelers toward popular, highly-rated locations. While these spots are undoubtedly beautiful, they often represent a sanitized, commercial version of a destination. The truly authentic local restaurant - the one known only to residents, tucked away in a narrow side street - might be completely overlooked by algorithm-driven recommendations.

Perhaps the most stark reminder of our technological dependency comes when devices fail. A dead battery, lost phone, or poor internet connection can suddenly leave a solo traveler feeling vulnerable and disoriented.

 Finding the Balance: A Hybrid Approach to Travel

The solution isn't to abandon technology, but to use it wisely. The best travel experiences come from striking a balance:

- Use digital tools for primary navigation and safety

- But remain open to spontaneous interactions

- Allow yourself to put the phone down and engage with your surroundings

- Keep a physical map or guidebook as a backup

- Ask locals for recommendations, even after checking online reviews

A good example of such has been my trip to Cape Town so far. I was intentional about getting a space in Hout Bay, or "in the mountains". This five-day getaway experience (out of my 10 days in Cape Town) afforded me time away from my phone, getting to interact more with people, and of course a serene and peaceful time with nature. 

Technology has undeniably made solo travel more accessible and convenient. But the most memorable journeys are those where we use technology as a tool, not a substitute for genuine human connection.

Travel is about experiencing the world, not just documenting it through a screen. Embrace the digital age but never lose the spirit of exploration that makes travel truly magical.

Funmi Oke

America Has Decided: What to Expect for Business Immigration Under the New Administration + Preparation Tips

With a new administration taking office, foreign nationals and businesses relying on skilled immigration may be wondering how immigration policies could shift and what those changes might mean for their future. While many aspects of U.S. immigration policy remain under review, some likely trends are beginning to emerge. Here’s a breakdown of the changes business immigration stakeholders might expect and how to prepare.

Heightened Scrutiny on H-1B Program

The H-1B visa, used by companies to bring highly skilled foreign workers into the U.S., has been a frequent target of regulatory scrutiny. Under the new administration, H-1B sponsors should prepare for increased requests for evidence (RFEs), denials, and site visits. Employers, especially those in IT consultancy roles, could face additional pressure when placing H-1B employees at third-party client locations. Detailed documentation will be required to demonstrate a clear employer-employee relationship and specialty occupation status, including a precise itinerary and task outline for each assignment.

Tighter Regulations on the L-1 Visa Program

The L-1 visa allows multinational companies to transfer employees from foreign offices to the U.S., but it has often been scrutinized for misuse. Employers might experience increased RFEs, and site visits will likely be more common to confirm job duties, salary, and other conditions of employment.

Increased Audits Under the PERM Program

PERM labor certifications, which are a vital part of the employment-based green card process, may see more audits under the new administration. Additionally, if budget cuts reduce the Department of Labor’s resources, processing times for employment-based green cards could extend even further, exacerbating existing delays.

Stricter Scrutiny on F-1 Students and CPT Programs

F-1 students using Curricular Practical Training (CPT) to gain work experience in the U.S. could face more restrictions, especially those attending institutions known as “CPT schools,” which grant work authorization from the beginning of the program. Consulates may increase the number of 221(g) requests for these students, placing additional pressure on F-1 visa holders.

Higher Standards for National Interest Waivers (NIW) and EB-1A Visas

National Interest Waiver (NIW) and EB-1A applications have already seen a high rate of RFEs, and this trend may continue or increase. These visas, often pursued by highly skilled professionals, may come under more scrutiny as the administration evaluates their benefit to the U.S. workforce.

Reassessment of Work Authorizations by Executive Order

The fate of certain work authorizations, like the H-4 EAD and STEM OPT EAD, could be affected, as these were established by executive order. While immediate changes may not occur, any policy change here could disrupt the plans of many foreign nationals.

Potential for Reinstated Biometrics Requirements

There is speculation that the new administration may reinstate biometrics requirements for H-4 dependents, a policy removed to ease processing delays. Bringing it back could mean increased wait times and additional documentation needs for families.

Tougher Entry Requirements and Restrictions Based on Country of Origin

The new administration may seek stricter entry requirements for foreign nationals from specific countries or regions, similar to the travel ban instated in 2017 and 2020. This could mean added delays at the border, additional documentation checks, and longer processing times.

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Preparation Tips for a New Administration 

Given the potential policy changes ahead, here are some strategic ways for immigrants and businesses to stay prepared:

1. Stay on Top of Deadlines: Start all applications and renewals as early as possible, especially for visas and work authorizations that may face processing delays or renewed biometrics requirements.

2. Maintain Thorough Records: Keep an organized file of all immigration-related documentation, including job descriptions, evidence of employment relationships, itineraries, and academic records. Detailed, clear records can help minimize delays and bolster your application’s success.

3. Regularly Consult with an Immigration Attorney: Immigration policies may shift frequently, and an attorney can help ensure you’re up-to-date on new developments, compliance requirements, and potential obstacles.

4. Use Reliable Resources: Stay informed about potential changes from trusted sources like USCIS, the Department of Labor, and your attorney. Misinformation can lead to costly errors, so relying on accurate updates is essential.

5. Plan for the Long Term: If you’re pursuing a green card, understand that extended processing times may require patience and flexibility. Prepare for this and take any early steps possible, like saving documentation for future use in your application.

While the road ahead might present more challenges, with careful preparation and an informed approach, foreign nationals and their employers can navigate these changes with greater confidence and resilience.

Funmi Oke 

Bridging the Gap in U.S. Healthcare: How Immigration Waivers Support Foreign-Born Physicians Amid Physician Shortages

Foreign-born physicians have long been essential to the U.S. healthcare system, especially as the country faces a severe physician shortage. The Association of American Medical Colleges (AAMC) projects that by 2034, the U.S. could see a shortage of between 37,800 and 124,000 physicians, including both primary and specialty care. The shortage is exacerbated by an aging population, increased healthcare needs, and high rates of physician retirement. This deficit is felt acutely in underserved urban and rural areas, where access to healthcare is already limited.

Many foreign-trained doctors enter the U.S. on J-1 visas, which allow them to complete their residency or fellowship training here. However, a home residency requirement attached to the J-1 visa mandates that these physicians return to their home countries for two years after completing training unless they qualify for a waiver. This requirement often deters qualified physicians from staying in the U.S. and contributing to healthcare in communities that critically need their skills.

Programs such as the #Conrad30 waiver program and waivers available through Interested Government Agencies (IGAs) allow these physicians to stay in the U.S. and serve medically underserved areas, helping to address the pressing physician shortage.

The Conrad 30 Waiver Program: Expanding Access in Underserved Areas

Under the Conrad 30 program, each U.S. state can sponsor up to 30 foreign-trained physicians annually, providing waivers for their home residency requirement in exchange for a commitment to work in underserved areas. In most cases, the commitment requires the physician to work for three years in a designated Health Professional Shortage Area (HPSA) or Medically Underserved Area (MUA). By focusing on these locations, the program directly tackles the shortage where it’s most pronounced, increasing access to care in regions that might otherwise lack adequate medical services.

 How Interested Government Agency (IGA) Waivers Help Fill Gaps in Specialty Care

Some foreign-born physicians may not qualify for Conrad 30 waivers or may wish to work outside traditional HPSAs and MUAs. For these doctors, IGA waivers can provide a critical pathway to remain in the U.S. Federal agencies, like the Department of Veterans Affairs (VA) or the Department of Health and Human Services (HHS), can sponsor physicians who agree to work in roles that align with the agency’s mission, such as providing care to veterans or conducting public health research. 

This allows foreign-born physicians to address highly specialized needs within the U.S. healthcare system, such as veterans’ care or specific health research, helping to ensure that even specialized care shortages are met. By enabling physicians to serve in varied roles, IGAs broaden the scope of healthcare services available to underserved populations.

Alleviating the Impact of the Physician Shortage 

Both the Conrad 30 and IGA waiver programs make a measurable impact on reducing the physician shortage. As demand for healthcare professionals rises, particularly in underserved areas, these programs not only retain talent but also expand access to care in areas where resources are otherwise limited. Studies show that foreign-trained doctors are more likely than their U.S.-trained counterparts to practice in rural and underserved areas, which makes their retention crucial for alleviating care gaps in these locations. 

In rural communities, for example, a foreign-trained physician might be the only primary care provider for miles. In underserved urban areas, these doctors bring valuable cultural and linguistic diversity to patient care, ensuring individuals from various backgrounds receive empathetic, high-quality treatment. Retaining foreign-born physicians through these waivers is a win for patients, communities, and the U.S. healthcare system as a whole. 

A Forward-Thinking Approach to Immigration and Healthcare

As the U.S. grapples with a growing physician shortage, waivers like those offered through Conrad 30 and IGAs are vital tools for building a sustainable healthcare workforce. They address both immediate and long-term needs by not only helping retain skilled physicians but also filling a diverse array of medical roles. By supporting policies that retain foreign-born physicians, the U.S. can strengthen healthcare infrastructure, ensuring that all communities have access to the high-quality care they deserve.

God's Mercy, Moves, + Other Stories.

Written July 19th, 2024. Sorry i'm late. 

 It’s the middle of the year. I’ve been doing a lot of praying/fasting with my aunt in the UK (big shout aunty Vivian) and God’s mercy has been a recurring theme throughout the different prayer sessions I’ve tuned into this month. So much so that I’d hear it one place and hear about it in a totally different time, place, experience. If that’s not confirmation of His Word, I don't know what else is. 

Psalm 26:3 

Psalm 25:6

Isaiah 30:18

Lamentations 3:22

I remember writing in 2015 about the grace of God. It’s cool how almost 10 years later, His mercy is the topic du jure. Very much a full circle thing given the all-too-common rhetoric of his grace and mercy following us all the days of our lives. 

God’s grace grants me favor; God’s mercy keeps me grounded. It keeps me grateful for everything I have and don’t have. 

In the words of the great K.W., 

Everything I’m not, makes me everything I am. 

This is the perfect segue to discuss my recent move. I’m moving to Chicago, Illinois. I haven’t quite worked out the kinks (whether just a seasonal move, permanent move, etc) but given that I'm writing this while out here, I took the first step, which is to come and get a feel of the city/ look at some apartments. While I’m not a stranger to moving, this is a move that was definitely not planned. I honestly thought I’d love Dallas (or somehow find my niche and permanent footing there), but 18 months and a few trial and errors later, I really had to admit to myself that I wasn’t happy nor was I on the way to achieving a lifestyle I was satisfied with using the resources available to me in Dallas.  I firmly believe that there’s only so much internal happiness can do if externally (i.e. day to day) you feel like you're living a life you're only tolerating. And that’s how I felt by my 13th month in Dallas. 

See this tweet for reference 

https://x.com/ikhide/status/1712593278648926503

Upon considering this move, I had to really think about exactly where I wanted to be. What is my ideal lifestyle? In which instances, even from childhood was I extremely satisfied with my day-to-day life? I thought about my 2013 internship in Berlin, Germany when I was commuting to work daily (albeit in the freezing cold). It felt cool being able to people watch on my commute home on the S-Bahn to Pankow. I was satisfied. I thought about my simple walks to the nail salon up the street the years I was carless as a young adult in Atlanta and living with my parents. I was satisfied. I thought about when I did my masters in Birmingham, UK and commuting to the city center or to class and going to the bull Ring shops thereafter (and tbh same goes for London and other places I visited while there). I was satisfied. 

I think about my day to day in Dallas and how it's very much opposite to these experiences. At the time I moved to Texas, there were tradeoffs that made the move worth it (needing stability, and the job opportunity namely). Fast forward to present day, and those tradeoffs are no more there (I now have my investment home and can use it to rent out to others and a remote job). 

Given that I no longer have anything tying me down to Dallas, I am very much willing to figure out the city that works for me.

The rest of this was written September 30, 2024. Happy to be here. 

It’s the end of the third quarter, I’ve officially moved to Chicago + I think I’m going to like it here.

Whatever didn't work out moves me one step closer to what does. Everything I'm not, makes me everything I am. 

watch this space. 

Funmi Oke